Most people think reinvention means torching it all and starting from scratch. It’s either stay in the job or leave it. Follow your calling or let it go. Play it safe or burn it down.

But winning at reinvention doesn’t have to mean destruction to the old systems.

Most of the time, it’s not either/or. It’s both/and.

You don’t have to abandon everything you’ve built. You just have to start noticing what feels right.

I couldn’t believe it. I had built entire careers on strong systems and processes — and here I was, building something new with no structure, no rhythm, no clarity. Just chasing someone else’s version of “should.” That silence haunted me, not just because I didn’t have an answer, but because I knew he was right. And that realization cracked something wide open.

It made me ask the question I think most of us avoid: When did I stop trusting myself?

I’m seeing entire businesses built on reshaping your story into something marketable instead of helping you uncover what’s actually true for you—because they know if you believe your story matters, you’ll hand over your money. And they’re counting on it.

I left on a journey down a path that wasn’t mine. It looked right. I was promised it would get me there. But it didn’t bring me home.

I should have known—if there’s a clear path to follow, it’s probably not yours.

That road led me outward, chasing answers. This one—the one I’m on now—led me inward, into truth. It was an internal journey, and it couldn’t have brought me to a more beautiful place.

Why is it radical? It breaks the algorithm. It stops feeding fear and division. It’s unpredictable—and in the best way, dangerous. If you can’t be easily labeled, you can’t be easily dismissed. You can’t be manipulated because you’ve stopped asking for permission to think. And that is radical—because it’s freeing.

Fear is one of the most powerful tools ever created. It moves people—to react, to respond, to believe, and to align with whatever group claims to offer safety from the unknown. It’s used in politics, the media, and culture—it’s everywhere. And the most effective way to control people is to make them afraid of each other or of a problem so large and overwhelming that they feel powerless against it.

Change is unsettling, whether it’s happening in your personal life or playing out on a national scale. Big shifts bring out a mix of emotions—excitement, fear, resistance, uncertainty. But have you ever asked yourself if your reaction to what’s happening around you is actually a reflection of what’s happening inside of you?

After getting strong feedback from guesting on other shows, in interviews, and during highly engaging Q&A sessions after my keynotes, I realized something—I was offering a different perspective, and it resonated. And that word—perspective—is key.

Most people never reinvent themselves. Not because they can't, but because they're waiting for something-the perfect time, the right circumstance, their “magic number” of age plus the years of service when they can finally retire, when they finally have enough.

Before launch day, I had a sense the book would do well. The number of pre-orders signaled the anticipation. Seeing it climb to number one in two categories, in four hours, surpassed expectations. Silently, I thought it might hit number one—but to achieve bestseller status in six categoriesand ranked right behind Jimmy Carter’s book in the week after his passing was unforgettable.

Today marks a milestone in my life as I release my memoir, Do You Still Like Football. This book recounts my story of resilience, reinvention, and the pursuit of a life lived enthusiastically and with no regret.

The end of the year feels like a natural place to reflect on our stories—the pages we’ve written, the twists we didn’t see coming, and the chapters we’re ready to close.

For the first time in four years, I’ll be home for Christmas Eve. In the boutiques, I always chose to give this time to my associates, making sure they could be with their loved ones. I would ask for a lone volunteer to join me, and together, we found joy and connection while helping those who had waited until the last minute to find the perfect gifts for their families.

This past weekend, while staying with family out of town, I fell halfway down a flight of stairs. One second I was walking, the next, I was tumbling—completely out of control, vulnerable, and helpless. It was a moment that reminded me how fragile we really are.

When I first started getting inked, it wasn’t just about getting tattoos. It was about the entire process: walking into the tattoo shop, meeting people who were vastly different from me, and wading into an environment I never thought I’d find myself in. 

Thanksgiving is just days away. Many of us will reconnect with family and friends, some for the first time in years. I’ll be reconnecting with family I haven’t seen in a while.

For some, these gatherings bring a mixture of emotions: happiness, memories, and sometimes the challenge of navigating different opinions. This year, through my writing and speaking, I’ve been reflecting on something I learned a long time ago: How much does it really matter that others know where I stand?

There’s a picture of me taken at a time from what might have looked like a high point in my life. To anyone else, it would seem like I had everything: success, stability, and the glow of someone at the top of their game. But what the picture doesn’t show is the storm brewing beneath the surface.

In my previous post, I discussed overcoming limiting beliefs as a step towards becoming whole. Today, I want to explore the next step on that path: embracing inner strength through vulnerability—a lesson I learned deeply in my own journey of self-discovery and transformation.

We all have beliefs that hold us back—those silent doubts that tell us we’re not good enough, strong enough, or capable of real change. These limiting beliefs become walls, keeping us stuck in self-doubt and disconnected from who we truly are. But what if the way forward isn’t about tearing down those walls but about seeing through them?

I’ve mentioned that I recently spoke at an event in Canada. The response to my keynote speech was amazing. I recently received this testimonial from an attendee of the event. I’ll include it in its entirety below.